Category Archives: Life

Giving back

Work life, for too long, was life. My identity was strongly tied to and centered around my job. And do not misconstrue this as a blanket admonition; I have a great position at a company providing valuable services to the community, with some wonderful associates I can call friends. I have earned and been given much, and I needed to give back.

As a human condition, there is a universal search for a purpose, to define a meaningful life. For myself, a fantastic opportunity presented last year, wherein I was gratefully accepted to serve on the Board of Directors for Seniors First.

Our mission is to enhance the quality of life of seniors by maintaining their independence and dignity.”

Seniors First – Who We Are

After initial introductions and meetings with executive members of this organization, and prior to joining the Board, I was afforded the opportunity to assist in a delivery route for one of their well known services offerings, Meals on Wheels.

Meal Programs

This was a truly rewarding experience. It brought me back to my late teens – with my great-grandfather in his upper nineties and no longer driving, it was my honored duty to bring him over to our house for dinner each night, and take him to his weekly grocery store trips. My family was fortunate, but many others are not. Seniors First steps up with great strength to fulfill this critical need.

Stepping Stone Medical Equipment Bank

Another great offering from Seniors First is the Stepping Stone Medical Equipment Bank. As my father grew ill after his stroke, he required several assistive devices to resume daily living activities. These included walkers, shower chairs, manual and powered wheel chairs, and ultimately an in-home hospital bed. Upon his passing I was able to donate some of these items, but not all. I want to help spread the mission of Stepping Stone, so that others in my position will be able to help as many others as possible.

Seniors First provides several other services, including In-Home Care, Guardianship, and a Food Pantry.

Donations are a significant lifeline to the sustainability of these operations. If you are of the heart and ability, monetary pledges can be made directly here, or you can text FeedaSenior to 76728. Food Pantry and Personal Care Items are additional ways you can support, and can be dropped off at the below location, 5395 LB McLeod Road, Orlando:

Lastly, I extend a huge thank you to the exuberant and compassionate servitude of the staff and leaders of Seniors First. You truly help define what a community is.

Change Management – Carpe Futurum – Moment of Truth

So I put three different subjects in the title because there are a bunch of different but related thoughts swirling around.  For a few years now I’ve been engaged as the technical support for a large project, merging three electronic health records into one.  I worked hand in hand with the primary project manager.  Two days ago without warning I received a company memo that the project manager was being reassigned due to a larger reorganization, effective two days from now.  I had a flood of emotions pour in; surprise that I didn’t know, anger that the manager was ditching the project well before completion, happy that the manager was getting to do something he enjoyed more, anxiety about the future.  That last one is the hard one, born of change, which itself is the only permanence we are guaranteed, to paraphrase a great friend and mentor.

And it is true, the only permanent thing in life is change.  That’s been more than evident the last few years as the company I worked for merged with two others, and as my personal life faced challenges I never could have anticipated (hopefully I will finally write about those later on).  I recently read A Survival Guide to the Stress of Organizational Change (Pritchett & Associated, Inc.) that I’m referring back to now.  It has information on mistakes we make that create stress, way of coping with change, how to win by surrendering, and how to manage stress and that stress can be a helpful tool when managed.

So how do I manage stress?  I structure stress management in a holistic model having three main components: 1. Physical, 2. Mental, 3. Spiritual.  I’ve conquered Physical pretty well.  My diet is primarily protein and vegetables with very limited carbohydrates and sugars.  I’m at the gym every weekday morning and perform PT exercises at home in the evenings.  My sleep still needs some work – I aim to be in bed at 9 and asleep by 9:30, and I’m up at 4:15 to hit the gym.  Mental is harder – having a mentor has been instrumental in paving a path.  Meditation is important.  And this doesn’t have to be sitting on the floor with your legs crossed and humming “Ohhmmmm…”  Meditation for me takes place when I’m on my motorcycle, when I’m taking a walk, when I’m enjoying my morning coffee.  It’s any time that I get to be alone and can reflect on life.  Spiritual is the big hurdle right now, but I’ve started making steps.  I’m not religious, have not been for a very long time, but after reading an article recently I’m coming to the conclusion that there are benefits to engaging the spirit, that a place of worship doesn’t have to be a church, but that a place of worship regardless of deity or theology can provide the structure to cull out the negative and toxic parts of life that so often define us and help replace them with the positivity that should sustain us.  It’s going to take me a little while, but I believe I can get there.

I don’t know where my professional life is headed right now, but I’m definitely at a crossroads.  I’m hoping to get some insight soon from my leadership, the uncertainty on how my functions are going to change is uncomfortable, but there is one thing that I am certain of: I believe in myself. Just hours before the reorganization memo was sent out I finished reading Simon T. Bailey’s Release your Brilliance.  One of the ending chapters is dedicated to realizing those big and important moments in life where change is occurring, and once defined to seize on them and act, to not sit idly by.  I won’t be sitting, I’m pledged into action, we’ll see what exciting adventure awaits!

Mom: In Memorium

November 14th, 2009 marked the 3 year anniversay of my Mother’s sudden and untimely passing.  While my Mother was sick, nothing of Her condition was terminal and She was taken from us much too soon, having only spent 52 short years on this plane.  This is the first time in these three years that I have felt comfortable, nay even found it necessary to write about this most sad event. 
 
The loss of my Mother was for me the most singularly painful and sorrowful event of my then 28 years on the planet.  3 years later and the pain remains almost as fresh.  I am told by those that have suffered through similar losses that these monumental feelings will last a lifetime, dulling little with the passing years.  The thought of enduring this lasting pain does not discomfort me as it allows me to recognize the enormous love I have for my Mother, such that not having Her with me in this life can cause such pain.
 
It is always my plan to remain busy this time of the year, keeping my mind occupied with important work and trivial daily tasks as a buffer to the emotions that are so difficult to deal with.  This is my defense; I know none other.  I really should talk to others more about this, and perhaps this marks my entry into this new endeavour.  I find it interesting that my family does not directly discuss this event.  We remember fondly good times and memories of Mom throughout the year but no specifics about Her passing.  I guess my family is only as ready as I am to communicate this event, which is completely acceptable and totally understandable.  As for me, I want to say how much I love my Mother, how tragically I mourn Her passing, and how I will think of Her everyday of my life. 
 
I love you, Mom.
 

Disney’s Partners in Excellence Award

On Tuesday, May 26th, I was honored to accompany my sister, Mari, as her guest to Disney’s Partners In Excellence Award Dinner.  Mari works as an electrician at Disney’s Hollywood Studios and is responsible for repairing many of the animatronics in use at the Muppet Show and the brand new Toy Story attraction.  Through hard work and dedication to her role, she was nominated and ultimately given the Partners In Excellence Award, which is the highest award a cast memer at Disney can achieve.  Disney hosted an awards banquet at the Contemporary hotel to honor all of the recipients of the award.  I was completely blown away by the extent to which Disney went to show their appreciation to the winners.  It was a semi-formal affair and everyone was in their Sunday best.  We were first given the opportunity to have a professional picture taken with a faux copy of the award trophy.  After that we attended a beautiful reception with an open bar and several kinds of scrumptuous appetizers.  We were later led downstairs for the official dinner.  Seating was pre-determined and at each recipient’s seat was their own incredible trophy.  The award was a bronze image of Walt Disney holding the hand of Mickey the Mouse, on a marble platform attached to a wooden base.  The whole thing was approximately 12 inches tall and weighed 10 pounds.  The dinner featured several performances by cast members singing various Disney songs, accompanied by dancing costumed characters.  There was an early buzz about a guest speaker, and it turned out to be John Quinones of abc news fame.  John spoke about heroes in America, and like most of these speeches it was a publicity attempt to sell copies of his book,  but nevertheless he came across with some encouraging words and uplifting stories that helped add an even more positive note to the evening.  The dinner wrapped up with more song and dance followed by indoor fireworks that took me completely by suprise.  I qik’ed a few videos during the evening which you can see here and here.  What I really want to say is just how proud I am of my sister for receiving this award.  She works very hard and is well deserving.  Congratulations, Mari!